ORDINARY PEOPLE

People...

Contestants of Big Brother UK..(2009)

Experiencing human social behaviour experiment

Sees the clashing of different human personalities and backgrounds

Friendships and enemies were made

Fans and hate mails awaits

All kinds of people with all types of personalities, beliefs and attitudes.

Sometimes, you just wonder why there are people you can get along with, and people you just can't seem to tolerate.

As much as I love studying and observing people, I still find it hard to like everyone and I believe, not everyone likes me. I just hope that most people do, I guess.

But I find the relations between people very interesting. 

There are people whom you know you'll click from the moment you meet them. 

There are people whom you really dislike at first, and later learn to kind of like them.

There are people whom you never thought you'll click with but then end up super close.

There are people whom you think you'll like, but at the end of the day, can't get along.

And of course, there are people who, from the sight of it, you know you are not born to be in the same gang or and you don't even want to be related to them through speech.

And then, there are people who's personality clashes completely with yours but you can still get along super well with them because they compliments you. But then in some cases, there are some people's who's personalities are different from you and they just get on your nerves so bad that you just want to pull that nerve out. (Dramatic visual description that metaphorically describes the pain).

Deny it if you want, but we are sadly divided into our own cliques in our own ways. 

We are connected with each other in different ways; for example, if we like the same things or have the same interest - we click. If we've been through the same experiences, we understand each other and thus, we can click. If we behave the same way, we click.

I don't condone outcasting or boycotting people but then there are times in which it is hard to get someone who obviously don't belong to fit in the group. I do not criticize that person but then, I believe that that person just am waiting for his/her own group that completes him/her. However, if that person is a total complete utter jerk, then excuse me for being a tad cruel and harsh. It is 90% ignoring that person and 10% depending on my mood.

In my personal opinion, working on the most screwing assignments or any other tough projects are solid tests of whether or not you can stand a particular person. It also shows how strong all of you are as a team. If you can endure a person for the whole duration of the project and at the end of the project, still fond of that person, your friendship with that person can go miles long. If halfway through, you go through a bitter argument which left the two parties sour forever, oh well, I guess that's it for you then.

I remember clearly til today our team for our Final Year Project, our short film production. I think that period has clearly indicated to me who are the people I can bear with and who I can't. But I am honestly very happy that most I have great team mates whose style of working compliments mine. 

I believe even for couples, you need to go through hardship together to test your love. If you can wade through a series of misfortunes, I believe that relationship is 90% secured with a tight love bond. 

I guess although God say we are all brothers, there are still brothers that we can't seem to understand because everyone has their own thoughts and their own way of behaving. My policy is to ignore and disregard people whom I choose to disagree with or who doesn't share a chemistry with me (for many various reasons) but then I guess it's not always the right thing to do. Sometimes, you just can't do that, and it is very unfortunate. In worst case scenarios, you have to fake liking a person, in which, to date, I find it really hard to do. Nothing is easy in life ya, including faking it. But again, I'm glad that most people around me are likable and for now, there are still a very small amount of people whom I need to fake favouritism.

But then when you are fake, people criticize you but then you kind of have to do it in this world, right? 

I'll conclude that it is not easy dealing with people, but I guess that is part of where the fun is - to deal with different characters who have so many different ways of thinking. There are so many things that we can explore. At the end of the day, I'd say that humans are the same but yet so very different at the same time. Studying people is part of my interest but at the same time, I think learning how to accept people I'm not so fond of and manipulating them into someone I like is a more positive lesson. Or perhaps, I'll just stick with my way of dealing with them - ignore. 

That's my random thought on people and human relations.

Learning to cope with a sea of personalities that range from the north pole to south pole.

Nobody is liked by everybody and that's just painful.

I wish I could be one of those who loves everyone. Then life would be much easier and simpler. :)

With Lotsa Love

TammyC

Out and down with flu

BLESSED BIRTHDAY

As I ponder upon the last 24 hours, I feel that the pain and sorrow more than half a year ago evaporating into thin air.

I remembered being as low as can be on the rollercoaster of life, but at this moment, in which I shall capture, is me being at the highest peak, looking down, gleaming and beaming at how wonderful and blessed my life is.

Last year I was surprised by my friends in Liverpool and this year, I was given another surprise by my colleagues!

I am very touched knowing that there are so many people out there who cared for me and would take the trouble to make my day a special one. Sometimes, just a simple wish can light up my day but when people go the extra mile for you, I guess it makes me feel even more grateful.

Once again, I can't say this enough, thanks to everyone who has made my 23rd birthday another very special one.

Lunch at TGI was raelly nice but I just wasn't sporting enough and so...I just don't like being put on the spot like that man! It's been so long since I have such delicious steak! I love steak!!!

And I got flowers! I'm very happy because I can finally show off! Hahaha!! Well forgive me because I've never received flowers before okay! I got one (yes, one sunflower, which I really love btw) once for graduation. and that's all. 

Dinner at a Japanese restaurant was also friggin' awesome because I love Japanese food too! 

I felt super guilty though because it costs my friends a bomb! Argh...i feel really bad!! I think I'll settle for mediocrity next time. I know I'll have a great time with these bunch of people no matter what since they are all awesome!

So ya, birthdays are a reminder that you are getting older each day...but it is a wonderful day because it makes you feel grateful that you are still alive and happy, and a reminder that you have family and friends around you that love and care for you. It is moments like these that make life worthwhile sometimes, and it makes you feel that, whatever sorrows and sadness you have in the past, are just part and parcel because at the end of the day, someone out there is watching over me, through the love of the people around me.

I'm blessed and I know that.

I just need to constantly remind myself. :)

With lotsa love

Tammy

JOURNEY TO THE EAST

It was generally a nice trip to Kuching.

There were ups and downs moment there but I think I want to imprint the happy ones.

The first day was pretty rush and I almost missed the flight.

Work-related trips are usually rush and you don't get much time for yourself.

But I'm glad that at night, after dinner, I got to spend some time with two great people who I don't call client.

There are great clients whom you enjoy working with and there are clients who stress you out and this trip was sponsored by one of the latter clients. So basically, I have to be on my toes almost 24-7. Thus, I was ecstatic when I got a break after dinner, and although suffering from a terrible headache, I decided to freshen up by taking a hot hot bath and then shoving Panadols down my throat to make sure I make the best out of this otherwise, torturous trip.

You see, I have a feeling that my clients don't really like me, and it's really hard coping in situations where you are clearly disliked. Faking smiles is basically what I've learned to do.

Anyway so I was brought by two lovely people to a place where we ate 'Kuo Chip Pan Tiau'...okay I still have trouble pronouncing it and I got a few laughs when I tried to work on the pronunciation.

But for your information, it directly translates into Ketchup Kuey Teau, which is something we don't get in Peninsular Malaysia.

So we went to this place, if I'm not mistaken, they call it the "Open Market" and I tasted for the first time the infamous Ketchup Kuey Teau. Now I believe it is supposed to be more Ketchup-y haha but it was really not bad. It is like what we in the West call "Wat tan hor", or if directly translated, egg white noodles. And the drink was heavenly! It was green apple mixed with lime and it was superbly delicious. I think the word 'heavenly' aptly describes the drink because one sip and I felt refreshingly alive ....

Keo Chip Pan tiaw

There are some other really special food/delicacies in Sarawak that we don't find in West Malaysia. They have a special kinda fern they eat as vegetables. By the way, just so you know, these plants are nurtured by the drains...eww...(I just found out today and I've been happily enjoying it at that time). I'm actually pretty surprised that we can't find those in Malaysia as I thought that globalization would have brought those dishes over seas to our side of Malaysia. 

So after food, Wendy, our journalist friend drove me around Kuching and saw me all the cat statues there was around the Cat city. And we had a few laughs in the car. That night was awesome! Seriously, it is great people like these that truly made my day. Though super tired, I still had a blast! My whole trip to Sarawak was cheered up by that sweet memory.

There were more cat statues but my camera disappointed me

The next day however, was a complete hustle and filled with stress!

I almost lost it.

But I'm so thankful to my journalist friend, Wendy for going all the way to buy me a cup of delicious iced coffee! I then found out that the coffee is bought from somewhere very far away and she had purposely took a trip there to get it for me and my boss. I'm really touched by such nice gestures and hospitality. Seriously, Wendy had made the whole Kuching trip a more cheery one that is worth remembering. If it wasn't for Wendy and my boss, I think I could have died of depression and stress over there.

But generally it was a great trip to Sarawak.

Many of my firsts happened that week.

1st trip to Sarawak

1st trip to East Malaysia

1st time on Air Asia (it really isn't as bad as many had claimed; in fact I find it a very comfortable journey).

1st time eating Keo Chip Pan Teaw

1st time eating a type of weird fern planted near the drains......

SO ya...was pretty exciting and memorable.

Wendy (by the window) and Stef (on the chair) - both gave me something wonderful to bring back to KL...fun memories

Will I visit Kuching again?

Most definitely but the next time, I'll go there light-heartedly and will lose all the burdens I had to carry with me.

Till next time....

Cheers...

P/s: Yesterday (Today in Liverpool) is Andrew's birthday.

I felt so happy when he replied my birthday wish...call me crazy, but I don't know why I get overjoyed over a few lines. Oh well, maybe because they are typed by Andrew. =P

Once again, Happy 30th birthday Andrew Upton!! 

With Lotsa Love

TammyC

Will share pictures soon...